Only You Can Decide

Deciding to move to Greece was both a thrilling and a completely terrifying experience. When I first visited Greece and Mykonos in September 2017, I was thinking what a dream it would be if I could leave behind city life and opt for the more relaxed island life.

While it was all a dream at first, my thoughts were constantly being consumed by wondering about the possibility, so I decided to look into it more seriously and see if I could actually do it.

I started with a lot of research, but aside from the logistics, I spent a lot of time in my head and heart thinking about this decision. I was constantly going back and forth about the pros and cons of staying and going, making lists, searching for answers anywhere I could find them.

I spoke at length over the course of months with friends, family, my therapist, and many strangers. I couldn’t contain the excitement, even about the slightest possibility that it could happen. The flight attendant I met in the nail salon in Redondo Beach, the guy at the park that I always ran into, the barista that knew my order by heart… they were all on board, and I was excited about the constant approval I was getting from others.

As I was making the final decision to move, though, I realized that I am the only one that could make the decision. While it is helpful and important to get insights and various perspectives around making such a big decision, no one is better equipped to decide your future than you.

Now that I have been here two months, I see the importance of making my owns choices and decisions in a new light. With my people-pleasing personality, I had learned to always look to others for some sort of approval or confirmation before I did anything. This is something that I have struggled with in both my personal and work life, and I finally feel empowered and excited to carve my own path and make my own decisions without turning to anyone else for guidance.

Yes, it’s nice to have approval and reassurance and endorsement from others, but if you always play it safe and wait for someone else to make decisions for you, you’ll never truly have those experiences that push you out of your comfort zone.  And I know from personal experience that out of my comfort zone is where I grow and learn the most.

As you navigate new territory, it’s scary! Let me tell you, I was filled with nothing but excitement and wonder as I embarked on my journey to Greece, but as the plane landed in Mykonos and it was pouring rain, I had a bit of a panic attack. Am I crazy? What did I just do? Why did I leave an amazing life? Is this a safe decision?

I wasn’t moving to Greece to run away, because I had an incredible life in San Francisco. I decided to move because I knew that I wanted to push my limits in order to grow as a person. While I still sometimes struggle with waiting for or wanting approval, there has been no better way to learn that only I can know what’s right for me, and that I am empowered to choose my own path.